Speak your mind = Crazy girl!

Apparently if you speak up, and stick up for yourself you are crazy or a stalker. This is why so many women keep quiet, let men walk all over them, treat them far less than they deserve and they don't say a word. Why? We may look bothered therefore scaring them away. Look like we care....therefore scaring them away. Like we actually like them....therefore scaring them away (you get the message) For a year this particular "boy" (not a man yet I'm afraid, and I mean in maturity, not literally!) has seemed to think he can pick me up and drop me as and when he feels like it and its "OK" as "we're friends" Friends do not stand up other friends with no explanation, reason or apology. Friends do not then ignore messages after said standing up and vanish for weeks on end to suddenly turn up out of the blue like nothing happened. He claimed to "really like me" to "want to get to know me again" etc etc. (I knew him years ago, and should have known better this time round!) And so we were taking it slow. The odd date etc. But taking it slow does not mean...not turn up and then show up weeks later and expect me to be in waiting for him. So. I spoke up! Enough of this blowing hot and cold! I wouldn't accept this behavior from my friends, hell i wouldn't accept this behavior from family! I would ask what their problem is! And so I did. To be told....it was "out of the blue" for me to message about this! He thinks he's done nothing wrong and has no recollection of stand ups! (Glad I went to so much trouble for something he doesn't even remember arranging!) Clearly as this particular boy is ridiculously good looking, and quite good company he is never questioned on his behavior! (Assuming he behaves like this with all women! It could just be me!)and he did not like it one bit. I think my question was worded quite politely to be honest! But he clearly did not agree and made me feel I'd completely made up this situation in my head. Like its perfectly acceptable and normal to arrange dates and for him to vanish without trace! He had me feeling crazy! Doubting that he had done anything wrong, I even had to go back through my messages to check we had arranged these dates! (we had) I felt crazy! And that I'd totally read into things! (I hadn't. Well I had....but only because of what he'd been saying) I responded to his blatant denial by carefully pointing out (I didn't want to look mad!) his random behavior and how I don't treat people that way and don't expect it back. To be met with silence. Shocker. I may have been single a long time, I may have been excited to run into this old flame, I may have eaten up all his lies, and I may have wanted to believe everything he said, but I wont be treated like a doormat to have a man. No matter how long its been! And how "grateful" society thinks I should now feel to have someone interested in me! And if I had any doubt......I received a text later this eve to say he was out with his "girlfriend" who....he apparently lives with! Small town this one! A friend was out with a mutual friend of ours and she spilled the whole story. So don't ever settle girls! Your gut is always right!xxx